The dictionary defines “identity” as the condition of being one’s self. As we experience the hardships and struggles of life, we are so desperate to know who we are that we start losing our minds and buying all the costumes society has created for us to forget our spiritual identities. But, what we want to be is different from what we need to be or from what we were sent here to accomplish.
Somehow we forgot The Universe (Creator, God) is perfect. This entity can be called anything you like because it can manifest itself according to your faith, even if you decide not to follow anything or anyone. So, how do you define yourself?
You were taught to be the best since childbirth to fulfill someone's expectations or to fit in your family or society, but there are always going to be people who are one step ahead of you. Other people’s accomplishments have a way of making you feel like you’re not measuring up and that is an endless battle with yourself.
Being "in-style" or "cool" does not always indicate or define who you are, but it shows that you are desperate for attention. Being well known does not take away your loneliness. It just makes you that much more lonelier. When you keep a small circle of friends, you feel more comfortable knowing that your friends are the only ones that you really want to spend time with.
What you wear or how your face looks shouldn't be more important then how you make another person feel. Fashion is an illusion created by your own mind and insecurities that it causes you to compare yourself with other person. There is nothing more beautiful in this world then allowing your own spirit to roam freely.
Being bright or smart: This is another downfall because we don't think the same way or make the right choices all the time. Sometimes making poor decisions allows you to explore your own capacity to think things through and to become a problem solver. This is how we all earn wisdom. There is nothing wrong with making mistakes because each time we learn more about ourselves.
Women are becoming as thin as twigs and men are getting more pumped and tanned these days. Every magazine cover in today's world displays young models with perfect bodies and it affects us unconsciously in our everyday lives. We use this as a place marker for who we think we are and consequently we find ourselves looking at our reflections every chance we get creating insecurities. Men are obsessed going to the gym and high protein diets to look manly, while some women starve themselves just to fit into those new skinny jeans.
Maybe looking beautiful or handsome is a survival instinct that has been primed into us from the beginning of time. Perhaps its because society has made us so self-conscious that we can’t feel better about ourselves until we’ve “beaten” out other people by looking like Miss Universe or like a model on the cover of a magazine. Life is not a competition. No matter how you look like there is plenty of people who will find you beautiful and attractive just the way are.
Or you can be wealthy in your own mind and spirit. Hold close to those who truly care for you because they will never disappear like that spare change in your pocket.
There are plenty more things I can write about, but I don't think I have to say anymore than I already have.
Creator gave us all a spiritual identity that is above labels like good, bad, beautiful, ugly, fat, skinny, preppy, geeky, nerdy, or freaks.
The secrets of the universe are within us and all you need is a spark to radiate your beautiful fire within.
Juan Errante
Thank you Gianni for this teaching about self acceptance and accepting others too. It seems like our struggle for this feedback, this reassurance that we are equipped perfectly the way we were made, is a life-long journey. Understanding this truth comes from getting to that place of heart, but also from the benevolent guidance of teachers that come in all forms of spirit and nature. Bless you! -Dd
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